Status Updates -Season 1

Hi  friends

I started this blog page in 2011 and since then have been posting one  or two serious or non serious topics... 

And then, slowly, I started enjoying writing smaller versions or tidbits of thoughts in my Facebook  profile..and once in while I collated them as "Revelations.." 

Recently, I have created an FB page for this column . You can visit the page facebook.com/ceeveescorner and like it , to get some noisy updates at regular intervals. Infact, its easier to post comments and engage in fruitful discussions on various topics.  And yes, since you always have the option of "Unlike" ing the page , don't worry.. you can always do that when you get sick of my peeping status updates at weird hours and wish to unsubscribe! 

So... Here we go.. let me post a collection of the status updates in the past one month or so!!

 Once again Thank you for being here and taking time to read my blog.  :-) 

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After two successful years of blogging with 40 blog articles on varied topics and thoughts.. I took the guts of having this FB page..I wish, this will give a wider audience and also free the viewer to read the article right here ,rather than moving out to another site. And yes, the best of all... FB doesn't have a "hate" button !! 

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Terrorism is actually a mental sickness and needs a treatment of the mindset.. but the problem is that we do not have the infrastructure for treating many together..!

What India needs is some terror psychiatrists who will use special techniques to treat the ailing patients. .and not just some high end aoft talking! 

The seed of Terrorism is implanted in a child due to bad parenting and society. .

Our world needs good parents who will develop each child as good citizens ! 

- yet another terror attack at the heaven on earth- Kashmir.. 

Sep 27,2013

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Mind is a mystery... It can create an Elephant out of an Ant ..and an Ant out of an Elephant! 

-CeeVee, 2013

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Newspaper is full of election oriented gimmicks. Its like trying to give sweet to a baby before giving a sour medicine! The baby knows that he will taste something bad after the sweet! 

Cee vee, 2013

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So, how many states are there in India now? 29 ..30 ..31.?..

Whatever be that, the State of affairs of our country is bad anyway! !
Adding new states every year..hmm ..Is history repeating? Will India become a land of hundreds of princely states? And will some foreign country attack and start governing us? Will another Gandhi come alive? Will we have another freedom struggle? Will we have another constitution? ....

Oops. .me and my mind..sometimes it goes uncontrollable! !

But one thing.. I wish we understand the value of unity and not get carried away by the selfish motives of political parties..!! 

-Oct 6 ,2013 

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" If you love something, then let it free for sometime .. If it loves you ,it will come to you. " 

this was a quote which captured me during my teenage and had always felt it to be true... 

Yes, I am leaving myself free for sometime.. and as always end up coming back to myself!!  

Am I a narcissist? But ,who in the world is not one? 

-CeeVee 2013

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Its easy to get attached to something or someone than to get separated from them... many of our life' s biggest problems is infact a test of our capability to detach ourselves. ...

Life in itself is a game of attachment and detachment!
Just like the one between Tom and Jerry!

-CeeVee 2013

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Every morning we awake from a death and work towards our death ...

Consider yourself lucky if u awoke today and are feeling great! 
Make the best out of today...!!

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India has the record of having the highest absolute number of child brides: about 24 million. This represents 40% of the 60 million world's child marriages. 

Good record.. let's keep it like this for more years to come!!! 

On one side, India is ready to spend crores of rupees for girl education, women and child health , free food etc.. on the otherside , we let young girls to get married at 12 or 13 yrs..and start producing children by 14 or 15!! Ya,.. only when population is increased , can poverty also increase.. and only when people remain poor, the country can be ruled by criminals!!

It happens only in India!!!...

(India has refused to sign the Global resolution on early and forced marriage of children led by the UN)

Oct 14

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Bollywood style villainism happnd in Madhya Pradesh temple stampede?!
On one side, thousands of police men are deployed for security of IPS officials and ministers and VIP s..
On the other side, the common people (or the cattle class ) are thrown to river!

It happens only in India!
Feeling angered and upset!

Oct 15

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As you go higher up in your career, all that matters is how well you are able in handling organisational politics. All the so called knowledge, skills and attitude is just for the freshers and the young professionals.

The more good at politics, the more higher up in life u reach! 
So, dear students, focus on the development of your behavioral, emotional and other personal soft skills rather than anything else! Coz that's what will survive in the long run! 

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Loosing a well trained human resource can be more costly to an organisation than the cost of hiring an new one.

But unfortunately, most managements think that "money can buy anything" and end up losing precious human resources.

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I always wonder whether business and ethics can go hand in hand!!

The more and more successful business men I meet i feel , they have one vice in common - the capability of telling lies in a convincing manner !

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And here is the EDITOR's CHOICE 

Very funny.. one of my friend told me that he liked one of my posts very much.. when I asked why he didn't press the like button, he says "some people in my friends list shouldn't see me liking that post! "

Lol.. heights of impression management! Hahaha

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Girl and MarriAGE

It has become a big point of discussion in media, when some religious groups have approached the courts for reducing the age of marriage of girls. They say that parents should have the liberty to marry off their girl child once she attains puberty!  The logic behind such an idea is religious however. 

Actually what's the right age for a girl's marriage?? Is there any right age?? 
I am now thinking aloud some of the points and counter points in this matter.

Point One: A girl after puberty is ready for bearing a child scientifically..and hence she can get married.
Counter Point One:  But she needs to be prepared mentally, emotionally, physically and socially before that. (Incidentally, yesterday there was a news about a 12 yr kid,who was sexually abused, giving birth to  a baby and yes, it happened in Kerala! ..So, what should the baby call the kid- "Amma" or "Sister" ?) 

Point two: A girl after puberty is ready for marriage, coz the earlier the parents can marry off their girl, the better.. especially in the minority communities and where there are many kids and the system of dowry is hard. 
Counter point two: But, have you ever asked how comfortable she is in that marriage ? If at all there is a problem , all that the parents can advise is ,"Try to adjust dear.. all this is part of married life" . And how many such marriages are actually "happy marriages"? 90% of such marriages could be just "adjustment marriages ",coz, they can't get separated, and that's coz they already have kids to take care. 

Point Three: An  early marriage helps the girl settle down in life faster.
Counter Point three: What do u mean by settling down? Marriage needs a real strong sense  of managing relationships, nurturing a family and is actually more challenging than being a bachelor. In most families, the wife is the silent bearer of all the tensions, worries, difficulties and what not.. Most husbands show their tensions on their wives. So, are these under aged wives ready to face such situations? 

Point four: An early marriage helps the community in better sexual discipline. 
Counter point four: There are hundreds of examples of domestic violence, marital rape and other sexual offences which are occurring to married women. An early marriage may give a discipline to men who gets a vent out for their sexual desire (for some women too) .. but marriage is not just about sex and the better way is to legalize prostitution.. !! 

Point five: A girl's primary role in society is to build and nurture a family ..the earlier the better!
Counter Point five: But, did you ask the girl about her dreams about her life?  Or did you just instill such a thought into her mind? (unfortunately, our society instills this thought into the girl's mind right from the time she is born!). Most of the women who have unfulfilled dreams about their life (career or family) actually end up as poor mothers for their kids. The kids of such mothers feel neglected and may develop  a personality disorder. In some cases, the wife develops many types of somatoform disorders (physical illness that may be purely due to mental reasons) or may become hypochondriacs, creating a disturbed family environment.. A kid brought up in such a scenario can never be a good citizen of this society for sure!...  

Points and counter points can go on and on...

Recently I met a girl - a young girl (may be 22 yrs old) ,who got married around 6 months back. She had a band aid on her wrist. I funnily asked her, "hey, what's this? did you try to suicide?" .To my surprise, she nodded "yes". Reason? - She had a fight with her husband (again ,a young guy who is only 26/27yrs) . Reason for fight ? - because she danced at her office function, without telling him. Both of them had a big fight and ended up in crying and trying to suicide. 

A girl at the age of 22 is still young ,according to me, to take up the challenging role of a wife. I can personally say this with my own life example. Right now, at the age of 32 also, I sometimes feel that I am immature to handle certain family situations! I got married at the age of 23 and always felt that it was too early..There have been several disturbed moments in my marital life! However, I also know of many girls who got married even younger and are happy wives. 

Marriage needs too many adjustments and sacrificing of personal freedom. Not just that, it also needs a lot of patience, nurturing, caring of each other and the kids. This concept is more relevant in the case of educated girls, who have their career aspirations as well. Many of the middle aged women I meet these days share a story of being dissatisfied with their marital life and that they are taking it ahead, only for their children. The reasons they share are varied :- incompatibility with husbands, husband not understanding their needs , unable to pursue their career, incompatibility with in-laws, or even financial problems. 

So, the right age of a marriage of a girl is when she is ready to take up the "real challenge" and "finds a suitable partner" . Such a marriage will be an ideal one and all others will end up as "adjustment ones" . 

CeeVee 

Tail piece: Westerners lead a "more efficient" marriage system- though they don't remain married for long, the period they are, they enjoy it fully and get separated the moment they don't go together.. and yes ,there you can get married even at the age of 84 or stay together for 45 yrs and then get married! I think this is much better than getting married at the age of 15 or 16!!

Revelations..Season 2

A Collection of my Own Facebook Posts...

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March 12, 2013

Its more than 5 years since I am into this field of RJ ying .. Not many Cochinites know its me whose voice they hear whenever they tune to Rainbow fm as promos!! just thought of making an FB page .. Thankyou All India Radio and my fans who has heard me all these years and loved me so far.. Expect your love in future too!! I wish to make this page a forum to express messages of social relevance , friendship and to lovers of Radio..!!

Thankyou once again!
https://www.facebook.com/pages/RJ-Chandra/425925877501447

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March 26, 2013

Loss of mother is the most tragic of all happenings in life... South Indian Film industry has lost its most loving and adorable mother today..

(on death of Actress  Sukumari..)
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April 27, 2013

When u r in power...there will be so many people near u as friends..but when u r out of power..u realise who ur real friends are!
Real friendships with ur colleagues is becoming a rare phenomenon..

The only thing that exists constantly in an organisation is politics!

Friendship and politics cannot survive together for long..!

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June 12 , 2013

It feels great when someone pops up suddenly and expresses their thanks to us for something we did to them long time back!
After all, life is all about expressing- if not now, may be later!

- met a friend after long time and he said, "thanks for helping me get me a job, u made my life! "

(and I always thought recruitment was a thank less job! ) 

Met one of our Recruitees after four yrs
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July 19, 2013

As a teenager I always fought with my mother coz she gave me a name which was always mispronounced by teachers and classmates!

But today, I am happy that anyone who got my name once correct, will never be able to forget it!
My name has helped me build my identity in a unique manner!

I feel very happy when great people identify me faster coz of my unusual name!

Thanku Amma!

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July 19, 2013

My son Lost the first milk tooth yday! I still remember those days when he got his first one!

Kids grow up fast! - hope I dont grow older fast!

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July 24 , 2013

Had a great birthday today... a small party at office..and as always , my kids surprised me with loving greeting cards.. !! Went for a dinner with family.... Thanks to all who showered me your wishes, love , prayers and blessings!

While having the bite of the food he loves.. my son commented, "Amma..I am sooo happy..that you were born..! Only coz you were born, I am having my pizza today! And we should also thank grandmother for having given birth to you!"....

I was surprised to hear this statement.. because.. incidentally, I wrote something similar in my blog today!! :-)

Thankyou my parents , my family and God for my life and all what I have and am today!

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August 6 , 2013

Eight years back , the doctor asked me , "Do you want a girl or boy?" , to which I said, "I want a boy and my husband wants a girl" , immediately after which i heard a screeching little cry like some weird animal and then the doctor told me, "Congrats, you have a baby girl!" . I said, "Ayyooo, my husband will be happy!" (I had earlier mentally decided that it was a boy and was actually shocked for sometime that its a girl.) Then, the doctor told me to open my eyes and see the baby . I still remember the most precious moment of my life and I felt so happy to see the two little eyes wide open and looking at me! That moment made me a "Mother" and gave me my gift of life- A daughter who is at times my child, at times my friend, at times my mother and at times my grandmother! 

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August 10, 2013

If I could change something in this country, it will be a democracy as in the U.S. Only two parties- one rules and the other lets them rule! The primary function of the opposition is to aid the implementation of policies and decisions taken jointly. If only, we could remove politics from administration, this may become a real God's own country! I know, that is quite an utopian idea...but really wish for it... can u imagine the kind of resources the govt has to arrange for the "war" that has been planned for Monday at Tvm? If half of the time, money and effort is spent for repairing the roads and handling the monsoon catastrophy in various districts...WE THE PEOPLE could live more peacefully and safely here!

I really wonder how many of the common man want to know about the number of phone calls made by some female to the CM! What we need to know is whether my child would come home safely from school and whether I can manage my home budget with the rising costs!

And the primary role of any govt should be to address the real issues of common man and not to bring army for fighting the striking opposition!

Opposition should infact question these concerns of common man and not just keep asking for the resignation of the CM!

- an angry young citizen of Kerala (I dont belong to any party )

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Sep 2, 2013

I think only two categories of people can survive in India! - the rich and the poor .

The rich can afford the rising cost of living and the poor is taken care by the Govt or NGOs or Rich individuals in the name of charity.

The only category that is affected from all sides is the middle class!

The smartest of them become rich and the not so smart become poor!

May god bless our country!

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Sep 5, 2013

A heap of clay can become a pot only when an experienced potter touches his hand and heart to it. The same clay when it reaches a sculptor, it becomes an art or a god .. the same clay when it reaches a mason becomes just a material for binding the bricks! 

A TEACHER can be a mason, a potter or a sculptor.. !!
A student is always a flexible, mouldable material who can be moulded as per the creativity and passion of the teacher. .!! 

And as in all arts, practice makes perfect the art of teaching as well! 

HAPPY TEACHER'S DAY! 

And thank you all my dear teachers and all my students who made me what I am today....

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Sept 8, 2013

If CAG  didn't exist in this country, India would have become the poorest nation from a developing nation ..long back itself! 

Firstly, I think we should change our pledge "india is our nation. .all indians r our brothers and sisters. ." May be Coz we r a family, we end up taking away or looting our own public resources. . And say, Ya, its from my family!

Sad to see these kind of corruption of crores in daily newspaper!

May god bless our country! 

(on the news abt two major scams exposed by CAG)

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Sept 9, 2013

Sometimes am worried abt the quality of school education my kids! Today I met a highly talented school teacher who said that despite her qualification and experience of teaching in schools abroad, even the well-known schools were only willing to give her salary of 5000 rs!

Its a pity that most of the school teachers in many of the famous schools here are those housewives, who want to spend sometime till their child comes home from school!

Teaching is not something everyone can do! It needs - passion, perseverance and an inclination to learn!!

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Sept  13, 2013

Friday the 13th- good for some, bad for some..

Delhi verdict
Sreesanth verdict
Modi verdict
SC verdict on criminal history!

2013 Friday- the 13th is anyway historical for India!

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CeeVee, 2013

To be educated or not?

Whenever some academicians meet up, they talk about the deteriorating quality of education, lack of interests from student’s side and the difficulty in managing the new generation media.

Whereas, whenever some industrialists meet up, they talk about the lack of “practical” knowledge from the fresh graduates, improper training and lack of soft skills. I don’t think , there is one industrialist who has not used this dialogue , “all the theory which you learnt from text is waste.. We need to be practical..this is industry!”

So, what exactly is education?...A difficult question !

Is success and educational qualification connected?...A very difficult question !!

On one side, there are lots of highly successful people who have NOT attained higher qualification and in some cases are even school drop outs. And on the other side, we see that higher qualifications leading to higher positions in life and those without necessary education still leading a mediocre life.

Which is good? Which is right? Should we obtain a higher education or should we do without ? 

My logic for arriving at an answer to this is :- Not all people who are highly successful are  school dropouts … and not all unsuccessful people are qualified!

So, the only generalization that can be made is this :-

Majority of qualified people are successful  

Majority of the unqualified people are unsuccessful

All the remaining are just exceptions!!! 

(At least this is what the statistics says...) 

Even a person without a higher educational degree can be "educated" and   even a person with the highest educational degree can be "uneducated" ! 

Infact, according to me all of us are "ignorant" and "uneducated" at all times... no one can be fully educated ... because , if we know about 100 things .. we may yet not know 10000 things! 

But unfortunately, most of us don't realise this and think that we "know" everything and we are "educated" !! 

Qualifications apart , Education in the real sense makes you empowered to face any situation in life. Education is a product of learning and experience. Education is rather a lifelong pursuit of knowledge. Everyone of us "learns" and gets "education" throughout our life  without our knowledge. And any  small bit of education can help us at some point of time! However, a dedicated effort for the attainment of a qualification or certification in a particular body of knowledge will surely help in a better way. 

As a closing note,  The more I learn, the more I come to know that I am ignorant! But I enjoy the pleasure of knowing that I am ignorant, because that gives me more reasons to learn.. 

Keep on learning and Keep on educating yourself for greater success !

CeeVee 

P.S: Success here means "The attainment of popularity or profit" 

Birthday Bragging !

Its my Birthday today! At first I thought its just another day ..what’s so special in it? But then came a thought – It comes only once an year! And only because I was born ..I am what I am today!

I am happy the way I am and believe that god has given me many  good things in life and I should thank him also for the same.. Birthday is the day for that I guess!

So, I also take the liberty about writing about myself (a bit of bragging too!) today in my blog!

A friend recently asked me how I am able to find time to do the different kinds of works that I am engaged in and how do I get time for all and whether I don’t feel bored at anytime?

Actually, I don’t have a clear answer for that! I do so many things.. but when I am doing something I try to focus on that.. but at the same time have the next item at the back of my mind – ready to step in, once I finish the first!  I think, most people are like this ! But unfortunately, the type of activities they engage in may not be having a productive outcome!  Its all about managing your time in the most productive manner by allocating available time into portions and utilizing any available free time to do something which is in your bucket list. The charm of my life is I keep adding to my bucket list …When the bucket is full, how can I get time to feel bored??!

For eg:  Most of the people of my age today are very busy most of the time.. They would work at office till evening, come home,  spend time cooking or watching TV or talking about neighbours!.  Some spend time trying to teach their kids (though the kids hate those sessions)..and then say that they are bored of their life!

But I don’t watch TV after I come home! I don’t socialize with friends every week!  I don’t go for movies every week! I don’t drink alcohol or waste my time chatting unnecessarily!  I don’t watch cricket!  I don’t enquire about what others buy or ate that day! But still I am not bored of my life! Instead, I feel like living more and more! I dread dying without completing my life’s mission!

So what keeps me so active?

One: My goals in life.. I have certain ambitions to be fulfilled and ensure that I am working for it each day!

Two: My family needs.. I love my family and strive for bringing more quality of life for my children.

Three: My varied interests and talents… I spend time to hone my own skills and talents because otherwise I would become lazy and stagnant. These interests also keep me young and active always!

Four: I outsource all routine jobs and focus on those which can be done by my capabilities and creativity only. For eg: I don’t spend my time cooking and cleaning everyday. I hired a maid! I cook only on Sundays and on special occasions. Its not because I don’t know to cook or like to cook. It’s because, cooking can be done by anyone, whereas RJ ying or writing or researching cannot be done by everyone!

Five: Great people I have met..  I meet lots of people and try to learn from their best qualities as well. One thing I have noticed in all of them is that they are all thorough professionals in whatever they are into and that’s what makes them successful. For eg: recently , I noticed that the great actor Mohanlal writes his blog regularly on every month and that too in his own handwriting.. (unlike other actors, who gets professionals for such PR works!) ..One thing which struck me is that..though he is 100 times a busy person than me , he finds time to do this small activity! These small things are my sources of inspiration..!

Even after coming home late from work, I don’t sit and watch TV. Instead, I spend my time sharing with my family members (esp Kids) about my day at work, motivating them to study themselves (because my kids finish their home works by themselves..even before I reach home), sharing interesting stories, reading, writing, browsing internet, visiting social networks and researching…talking to people…and working towards  my goal...  I always try to learn and keep updated in the fields I am interested in! Being this way, I think I am able to set an example for my kids as well.  

In short, I just make sure that I don’t waste my time unnecessarily. The only time I feel I waste everyday is around one hour each to commute to my workplace. Since I drive myself, I can’t do anything serious at that time. Recently, I found a solution for that too! I learn music during that lonely drive.. I listen to songs which I want to learn and keep practicing it loud while driving!

Now comes the next question ? Why am I like this? The only reason I can think of is that I love myself and I strive to keep liking myself! Why? Coz, only if you can love yourself, you can love somebody and somebody can love you!

Its all about balancing one’s time between his/her soul and body.  All the minor things in life is bodily needs whereas the major ones that of soul! Follow your soul and strive to keep your soul happy ..!! You will automatically be energized and active always! Don’t work for your body..work for your soul!

Yes, I do different things..  and I am happy the way I am!!  

Thank you God for making me the way I am !!

CeeVee 

Sensible Autocracy Vs Senseless Democracy

I think, sometimes, autocracy is better. Be it our home, or our workplace or the country !!

At home, sometimes I feel there should be someone to take strong decisions and say that ," Let's do this only!" and lo, that thing will be done! My husband takes that role most of the times and then, at times myself! 

Similarly, even in an organisation, sometimes I feel its better to have that strong one person decision,rather than having too many people around to decide!! 

I will narrate an incident.. (oops..a STORY - with a disclaimer:- all characters in this story are fictional and any resemblance is merely coincidental!) 

There is this big company which was built and run by a single autocratic man, who was   called as a terror by the workers! This boss wanted a new design for his website and wanted to "launch" it by some celebrity for a function.  

He expressed his idea to a few of his subordinates and then asked them to do it themselves by finding a suitable vendor. But unfortunately, the subordinates have never been in such a situation before! For them - they have only acted what the boss dictated and did not know to take decisions on their own! 

One of the young members of the team suggested a lady designer and then the entire team  had a first round of discussion with her and asked her to bring the proposal. A few days later, she came up with a proposal, which was pretty good and in line with the boss's expectations. The team was about to award the work to her.  However,at that point , came up another proposal from another vendor , referred by some other members of the team. 

When different sets of proposals came, it seemed better to have a group decision and hence all the board members and other relevant personnel were invited for a meeting and demo of the various options. During that meeting, came a few more ideas and a few more proposals. 

They kept on waiting for the new proposals and days passed by. As it was a tight schedule, they were then forced to decide upon a single person and to award the work. They conducted two more detailed meetings, where each member had strong opinions to share and the detailed discussions reached no where. In the meantime, some members came up with corruption charges and having hidden agendas by some other members in the team! A point reached , when some members actually told that "let's drop this plan for the time being and do it only when we have time".

To cut the story short, after several rounds of discussions and "tea and biscuit sessions", it was ultimately decided to award the work to the same lady designer because her works were of good quality and her proposal was good!! 

Well, I know, you are also able to relate to this story in your organisation / home ..right?

Friends, what's benefit of this exercise? I would say, one can understand how deep organisational/relationship politics can go, even in very small matters! and also, how easier it is to take decision when there is a Single Strong Sensible, Intuitive  person rather than too many people who appear to be a walking encyclopedia ! 

Its the choice between  believing in gut feeling or going through the  "scientific" or "systematic" process of decision making which ultimately may arrive at the original decision! 

What's the irreplaceable loss here ? - Time. 

In the above story, the project would have completed much earlier, if this decision was taken by the boss alone and if there were not many people involved.

So, that's when we say, "Sensible Autocracy is better than Senseless Democracy !!"

I think, the same is applicable for our country and governance.. and yes, the same is applicable even when I go shopping for clothes !! 

Go for your intuition - That's mostly the right one! and even if you failed - you wont feel sorry for it! 

And  I reiterate :- I meant " sensible autocracy " and not just autocracy ! 

Jai Hind! 

CeeVee 

May 2013 

Ladies and "Not so" Gentlemen

Note: I Certify the following article  as U/A 

Why do we get to read so many rape stories on media these days? Is it because the incidents has increased or is it because the media is highlighting it more? Rape is not a new thing in the whole world. Wherever there are women and wherever there are men, there exists a chance for the same. Even in the most civilized societies, we hear such things. Then it’s not surprising that India being the second most populous country and ‘not so great’ human development index has to face such crimes every often.

However, of late, though, due to the phenomenon called “rape politics” (a nasty way of  trying to disrupt the whole democracy because of one or two rape incident), I think, women of India (both rural and urban) have developed courage to express their problems openly. Women today at least have the guts to go ahead and lodge a complaint in police when they face any problem (this again is “misused” by some women. let’s not talk about that here!)

Today, we are living in a cyber world where you can start a “Cause” for protection of women and get “votes” for “signing petition” to the Govt. But we don’t know what will happen to our own “lady friend” if she goes out alone at night! In many of the recent sex crimes, the victims were girl child of even 3-10 yrs of age and the culprits were boys of 17-19yrs. This is a point to ponder.

I wrote the following angry post in my FB profile when the delhi rape incident took place.

“ ..Can any technology stop pornography and free sex videos through internet? That's one reason I think behind the increasing Violence in the name of sex. Females are portrayed as sex machines- who can be brutally penetrated thru any part of their body and their cries are considered as "yes". Imagine a 12 yr boy who grows up watching this- he thinks -women enjoy this violence. No parental control is able to stop this free availability of porn on the internet. and Imagine , an uneducated rogue watching the same in his mobile even when travelling in public transport. Man is obviously a social "animal" and sometimes even becomes a "beast" who cannot control his urges. Adding to this, if he is also an alcoholic ..then the rest of the story I needn't say at all! 

Wish the world could go back to 20 yrs- when these were not available. I was so fortunate that , even as a teenage girl, i could go out alone- except for a few "groping" incidents, I never had any serious misbehavior from men..and even in some bus incidents..I have retaliated for their misbehavior that they will remember it for their lifetime... But, now, even as a 30 yr old mother of two kids, i am afraid to travel out alone. 

Some women in the media are talking of death sentence, castration and other painful punishments to rapists. Some gentlemen has retorted ,saying that Men cannot be castrated or given medicines for losing interest in sex AND that men are always powerful. According to them, women are powerless creatures who should be used as a toy for the whims and fancies ... May I gently suggest , such Gentlemen , that Violence in the name of sex is a mental sickness and needs treatment.

Yes, this is the right time to enforce strict law against these criminals. 

CAN THE MEN EVER STOP FIRST LOOKING AT THE BREAST OF A WOMAN?  For the first time .. I wish I was not a Woman!

CAN THE INDIAN LAWMAKERS BRING A STRONGER PUNISHMENT? For the first time- I wish ..I was an NRI..! 

CAN THE SOCIETY STOP WAITING FOR AN INCIDENT TO WAKE UP? - For the first time- I wish I was not even BORN !

:-(

A Sad and Angry Woman Citizen of this era..... "

I think the above article still holds good, though some of my friends commented that  “watching sex videos cannot make a person a rapist” and “if the person has some self control ,such incidents wont occur” and so on. But I think, I will stick to my opinion in this matter for one important reason - 20 yrs back we didn't have sex videos and alcohol freely available in all sections of the society.

STOP Pornography , BAN alcohol and SAVE women

CeeVee

April 2013

p.s: Pls dont brand me as a "hard core feminist" . I am just trying to express my feelings and opinions as such. No political intentions!