Monday, May 4, 2015

Selfie Decisions and Earthquakes



Life is an aftermath of all our decisions

There are only two decisions which we cannot control – one is birth , other is death.
As life progresses we take different kinds of decisions and most decisions affect the whole way our life progresses .

However, its not easy as it is said. In most cases the decisions pertaining to our life may be taken by our closed ones or due to  situations. Our parents decide what should be our name, which school should we attend , which dress we should wear and what we should eat .. until a certain age. After that they decide where we should do our college ,what course we should join and later when we try for a job, we have so many people advising or taking a decision for us.  Once we become adults (atleast as per laws) , we aspire to take our own decisions about life.

Similarly, after a certain age , other people enter our life. Friends, lover, partner and similar people start influencing our decisions . Though we think that we are taking independent decisions, we get influenced by others and try to incorporate their wishes, their opinions and we also weigh the impact of our relationship status on our decisions. Thus, our decisions may not be fully our own decisions.

After a few more years, our decisions tend to be influenced by our children or their future.  Further more, we live for our grand children and their wishes.

Now, come to professional life. Most of us take decisions in a democratic way or end up accepting decisions which are autocratically taken by our bosses.  

But, wait, in all the above , the aftermaths may be directly or indirectly faced by us. We end up taking the responsibility of all our decisions. We have to. And that’s how it is. I call this as Selfie Decisions – Decisions pertaining ourselves and we end up taking  responsibility of.

In Selfie Decisions, when the outcomes are good, everyone concerned take credit of it. For eg: You may decide to take up a particular job or a marriage based on somebody’s opinion and if it goes on well, they keep saying that its due to their advice you are happy today. However, imagine, what happens , if its otherwise. Its at those times of stress, we find the people who genuinely care for us.

Bad decisions can lead to crisis – both socially and emotionally.Some people, who are reluctant to take self responsibilities of their decisions, take drastic decisions and decide to end  their life. 

But the irony of life is that when we decide to actually decide on something, there can be some other decisions, beyond our own control. For eg: Who decided the recent Earthquakes in Nepal ? Could any of us control the same? That one decision of nature could have broken thousands of decisions taken by people affected, thwarted millions of dreams and aspirations .

Life has no guarantee, even for the next moment. But still we dream, hope and take decisions. In some cases, thrust our decisions on others.

Man Proposes, God disposes. We take decisions about life and Life takes decisions about us.  

I take this platform to pay my tribute to my one of my Guru, who left  his physical body last month. I was fortunate to spend a few days of intellectual , spiritual discussions with him in February . After a few weeks,  I come to know from his son that he is no more. We had decided to meet once again in June and that has now become impossible.  RIP Prof.Dr.Kaliappan, Retd Prof of Psychology in Madras University. My Pranams to u.  People like you are immortal in the hearts of people. 

In our short life, let’s take decisions for the well being of each other and let’s help each other take their own decisions. After all, even in our Selfie Decisions, a minor tremor can become an earthquake sometimes. 



Until next, 

CeeVee 

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