Saturday, May 9, 2020

Mother's Day Message

 *A girls' honour does not lie in her vagina or body*. 

Many girls are becoming victims of cyber attacks today. Porn menace, morphing , blackmailing etc have become a common affair in the cyber world. Toxic masculinity is spread in many "boys only" ,"men only" chat rooms . 

To all girls and woman out there. Do not feel unworthy because your picture was used by some unscrupulous man in some x-rated site. Your dignity does not get lost there. Its the dignity of men who do such things as well as the ones who watch it /share it that's losing.  

Well, why did I write about this now? Today is Mother's day. I think its also a day to remind that all men are born out of a woman's Vagina and Uterus. 

And men who violate another girl by considering her as a piece of flesh or vagina please understand that you wouldn't have been born if your mother had decided not to. 

One more reason why I write about this today is that yesterday I had an interesting conversation with a friend who shared rising incidents of girls getting trapped via social media by men who claim to be photographers in the name of "photoshoots" . Well, many of the girls  get lured by unscrupulous men who give a free photoshoot coz they find the girl attractive to become a model. They then convince them into nude shoots as well. Well , after that comes the sexual favours and blackmailing.  Dear Girls, Do not accept such photoshoot requests. If you wish to get photoshoot done, choose Women photographers or  men you / parents / friends know well  instead of unknown men. And most importantly, even if your photo gets misused later, never compromise on your dignity and oblige to sexual favours to such men how much ever they blackmail you . Coz , its only a photo that can get shared . But once you accept an unknown man to touch you, then you get shared ! And let me tell you, touch by a man who you don't love is the most repulsive thing that can happen to a girl. 

So, yeah, coming back to today's topic. Dear  Girls, Your honour does not lie in your vagina or any of your body parts. Your honour lies in the way you look at life. In the way you live your life. In the way you respect fellow humans. In the way you are happy! Never allow any man/woman or society to dictate terms and make you feel inferior to anyone just because you are born as a female . 

And Dear Men, before you share that image / video of an unknown girl, think for a moment, if it was your mother will you do it? 

Happy Mother's Day Everyone! 

Cheers and Love 
#CeeVee

Wednesday, May 6, 2020

Gender Issues amidst the Pandemic

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The Covid-19 pandemic is considered to be one of the greatest historical event ever since the century old Spanish flu devastated the humanity. This significant period is changing our lives in myriad manners and indeed altering our priorities as if in a war-like scenario. Take for example, the case of alcohol. The lockdown which led to complete close down of all alcohol outlets in India was received with a huge debate on two sides. A set of people who argued that without alcohol, the alcoholics would have drastic withdrawal symptoms and may lead to harsh outcomes including crimes and suicides. Another set of people who felt that this period of non-intake of alcohol may lead to better balance and love inside the family especially in those where men are addicted to it. And that this period could even help in stopping or reducing this habit forever. 
Around a week after the lockdown was announced, I had an interesting chat with a few of my women friends on the topic of family life and alcoholism. I spoke to selected 14 women who had previously disclosed to me that alcoholism of their husband / father is a matter of concern and familial discord. Around 80% of them told me that the non-availability and the resultant sober nature of the men in family was indeed very satisfying. There were less arguments and a feeling of safety within the family.
Though there was a fear of withdrawal symptoms, most of them could overcome the same by spending time with children or doing household chores.The wives/mothers /daughters were happy and there was peace in the family.
However, to my surprise, when I re-checked the status after around one month of the lock down things were not as bright as it was initially. The “good husbands” became once more “bad husbands” for varying reasons. In fact, this time, only 40% of the women agreed that they had a “peaceful” family life. On probing further, the reasons included increase in domestic violence, arguments, verbal abuse, child abuse etc. The increase in the domestic violence incidents during the lock down have actually opened up the decaying worm called toxic masculinity or the deep rooted patriarchal notions which was hitherto hidden in the name of alcoholism. Other issues like sexual abuse especially of children also cropped up during this period and many cases were reported in the media as usual. 
Sexual violence and alcoholism has been long considered as going hand in hand. But despite the non-availability of alcohol (now, this is a question by itself. Are we sure that they are not obtaining their alcohol from unscrupulous sources?) , the rising number of these incidents also points to pertinent questions on sexual deprivation or possibly psychopathic tendencies in such individuals. 
Power relations within the family especially in the context of increasing financial insecurities, rising tensions, fear and seemingly endless confinement at home could also be other reasons for the rise in the incidents of domestic violence. So, my ladies who were earlier “happy” about having their husbands at home and having a “peaceful” life now started lamenting on when the lock down will end so that their husbands can get back to work which will enable some free time for themselves.
Amidst the media frenzy of the death statistics and political debates that’s happening on a similar pandemic rate, there are multiple segments of people whose issues get submerged. One such is the women and the Trans genders. The nature of issues may be different for each segment but the fact remains that the pandemic has brought out some issues which were hidden.
Feminist economists also have spent decades examining women's unpaid work within the home, an issue that has gained attention during the crisis with lock downs and stay at home orders around the world. Regardless of context, women do relatively more unpaid care work than men and this is mostly undervalued and invisible. This also increased due to school closure and the additional care needed for elders at home who may be sick.
Coming to the work front, the fact that a vast majority of healthcare workers are also women and their burnouts, stress and emotional trauma is something which needs attention cannot be ignored.
We also heard of violent behaviour towards some of the healthcare professionals including doctors and nurses who were ill- treated by their neighbours or landlords. On one side, we hear of the struggles of healthcare workers and the other side we also hear of follies committed by law breakers leading to more victims needing attention from the same healthcare warriors.
In the case of transgender, the issues are multi-fold. Poverty and lack of avenues for dignified living has now increased its magnitude post covid. It is imperative that their issues are studied separately by government and other bodies and necessary actions to be taken for effective rehabilitation and empowerment actions.
Gender sensitive strategies shall be identified by corporations and governments along with substantial provision of social net for women and other vulnerable segments. Flexible work arrangements for both men and women which became a necessity during this pandemic can continue which may enable better participation of men in household chores as well as reduce the burden of women to some extent. Gender responsive actions and business policies are also need of the hour. In fact, the pandemic actually offers an opportunity to bring about effective changes in the society and systems to protect the women from the brunt of not just this situation but also to modify earlier inequities. Women’s economic empowerment by providing opportunities in home based small businesses,micro-entrepreneurship, freelance jobs, opportunities in digital and technology world, local manufacturing and marketing of women made products are all areas to focus on after this lock-down.
Coming to economic issues, as the effects of the COVID-19 pandemic roll through economies, reducing employment opportunities and triggering layoffs, temporary workers (the majority of whom are women), are expected to bear the heaviest brunt of job losses.
Let’s look at some of the below statistics identified by Isabelle & Pamela (April 2020) published in the UNCTAD website where they talk about the necessity of gender- equal responses to save the economy after Covid 19.
“Across the world,women represent less than 40% of total employment but make up 57% of those working on a part- time basis, according to the International Labour Organization. In South Asia, over 80% of women in non-agricultural jobs are in informal employment; in sub-Saharan Africa this figure is 74%; and in Latin America and the Caribbean, 54% of women in non-agricultural jobs participate in informal employment. The service sector is being hit hard by the restrictions imposed to manage the spread of the coronavirus. Given that some 55% of women are employed in the service sector (in comparison with 44% of men), women are more likely to be adversely affected. Moreover, female-dominated service sectors such as food, hospitality and tourism are among those expected to feel the harshest economic effects of the measures to contain the spread of the pandemic. Without open and favourable lines of credit, many female entrepreneurs will be forced to close their businesses”

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Just as the earth is healing itself by closing ozone holes and eliminating pollutants, it’s time to use this period as a ladder towards better gender equality.
Cheers to all the wonder women and superheroes out there!
#CeeVee
May 2020
#CeeVee is the brand name of Ms.Chandra Vadhana, Founder and Chief Mentor , Prayaana Labs. Email: connectceevee@gmail.com
Reference: “COVID-19 requires gender-equal responses to save economies”, Isabelle Durant, Deputy Secretary-General, and Pamela Coke-Hamilton, Director, Division on International Trade and Commodities, UNCTAD, published on April 1,2020 in UNCTAD website.
This article was first published in SHESIGHT Magazine , May 2020


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