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Life is an aftermath of all our
decisions
There are only two decisions
which we cannot control – one is birth , other is death.
As life progresses we take different kinds of
decisions and most decisions affect the whole way our life progresses .
However, its not easy as it is
said. In most cases the decisions pertaining to our life may be taken by our
closed ones or due to situations. Our
parents decide what should be our name, which school should we attend , which
dress we should wear and what we should eat .. until a certain age. After that
they decide where we should do our college ,what course we should join and
later when we try for a job, we have so many people advising or taking a
decision for us. Once we become adults
(atleast as per laws) , we aspire to take our own decisions about life.
Similarly, after a certain age ,
other people enter our life. Friends, lover, partner and similar people start
influencing our decisions . Though we think that we are taking independent
decisions, we get influenced by others and try to incorporate their wishes,
their opinions and we also weigh the impact of our relationship status on our
decisions. Thus, our decisions may not be fully our own decisions.
After a few more years, our
decisions tend to be influenced by our children or their future. Further more, we live for our grand children
and their wishes.
Now, come to professional life.
Most of us take decisions in a democratic way or end up accepting decisions
which are autocratically taken by our bosses.
But, wait, in all the above , the
aftermaths may be directly or indirectly faced by us. We end up taking the
responsibility of all our decisions. We have to. And that’s how it is. I call
this as Selfie Decisions – Decisions pertaining ourselves and we end up taking responsibility of.
In Selfie Decisions, when the
outcomes are good, everyone concerned take credit of it. For eg: You may decide
to take up a particular job or a marriage based on somebody’s opinion and if it
goes on well, they keep saying that its due to their advice you are happy
today. However, imagine, what happens , if its otherwise. Its at those times of
stress, we find the people who genuinely care for us.
Bad decisions can lead to crisis
– both socially and emotionally.Some people, who are reluctant to
take self responsibilities of their decisions, take drastic decisions and
decide to end their life.
But the irony of life is that
when we decide to actually decide on something, there can be some other
decisions, beyond our own control. For eg: Who decided the recent Earthquakes
in Nepal ? Could any of us control the same? That one decision of nature could
have broken thousands of decisions taken by people affected, thwarted millions
of dreams and aspirations .
Life has no guarantee, even for
the next moment. But still we dream, hope and take decisions. In some cases,
thrust our decisions on others.
Man Proposes, God disposes. We take decisions about life and Life takes decisions about us.
I take this platform to pay my tribute to my one of my Guru, who left his physical body last month. I was fortunate to spend a few days of intellectual , spiritual discussions with him in February . After a few weeks, I come to know from his son that he is no more. We had decided to meet once again in June and that has now become impossible. RIP Prof.Dr.Kaliappan, Retd Prof of Psychology in Madras University. My Pranams to u. People like you are immortal in the hearts of people.
In our short life, let’s take decisions for the well being of each other and let’s help each other take their own decisions. After all, even in our Selfie Decisions, a minor tremor can become an earthquake sometimes.
Until next,
CeeVee
